Bully Movie – We most arm our kids with Bully Proof Self-Esteem
There is one thing we can do to help our kids who are being bullied. We can work daily to give our kids bully proof self-esteem.
Here are three things you can do with your kids daily to improve their self-esteem.
1. Confidence Coins. Put 10 coins in your left pocket when you start the day. Throughout the day, find positive things to say to your kids.
Things like:
“Thanks for helping me this morning by getting ready without me having to nag you. It really makes my life easier and I appreciate it.”
“I love when you start your homework without me having to ask,
Thanks!”
“You were so nice to your sister today. Thanks for being a good brother.”
“You look nice today, I love that shirt on you.”
Each time you say something encouraging, nice or thank your kid, move one coin over to your right pocket. Here comes the hard part.
No corrections or negative feedback until all the coins are in your right pocket.
I know I am far from perfect, but this trick has helped me become a more positive and uplifting parent to my son! Give it a try, you’ll love the results!
2. Don’t say don’t. The experts tell us by the time our kids are six years old, they have heard negative feedback over 40,000 times. “Don’t do this”, “don’t do that”. Think about it. I’ll be honest, I am sure I am guilty.
When we tell our kids don’t, can’t, shouldn’t, they get the message that they aren’t, can’t and won’t be a success! It is just that simple.
This about this. How many times have you said, “Don’t spill the milk, only to have your kid spill the milk?” Our brains can’t process negative words, so they set about to make the affirmative part of any statement happen.
Here is an example of what to do.
Let’s say our kids are heading off to take a test, we have two options. We can say: “Don’t flunk this test.” Or we can say: “I know you studied hard and I am positive you are going to ace this test!” Which would you rather hear??
3. Create Wins! Find projects, whether it is around the house or in your community where your kids can win. Do things together where you can really and sincerely compliment your kid for how wonderful they are.
And here is a bonus: Role play. Sometimes the hardest thing is to know how to react to someone who is mean to you. If you role play, they will have a chance to practice and in the heat of the battle, they will have their wits about them, because you gave them to them!
Self-esteem is so very important and yet statistics tell us 2 out of 3 people have self-esteem issue.
Help your kids grow Bully Proof Self-Esteem. Start today!